Because traditional dating apps suck and this feels more like writing an anonymous letter out into the universe...

You:

Between 35-45, single, drug-free, and local to the DMV area. You should be willing to meet in person pretty soon. Sorry but not interested in poly/ENM. Creative and experienced Doms preferred.

What I want:

A loving, kinky, in-person, long-term relationship built on things like trust, communication, and equal partnership. I tend towards submissive but do expect to be treated with respect and care above all else, as I will do for you. I want us to be friends, to lean on each other for support in our day-to-day lives. I also want us to be able to explore our kinks and sexual interests together, judgement-free. Eventually I would love to explore some sort of 24/7 D/s dynamic.

About me:

I'm 38F, 5'1", 130#, and petite. (Yes, I know I'm short. Yes, I've heard all the short jokes.) I have fair skin, brown eyes, and brown-turned-salt-and-pepper hair. A girl next door kind of look. I've been divorced a few years now, with 50/50 custody of my 2 kids who I LOVE and prioritize in my life. I'm also a dog mom to a not-always-polite doggo who is still working on her manners. I'm a homeowner, have a job that I enjoy, and have lots of therapy mileage. LOTS. :P

<<But what about the nerdiness?>> I'm an engineer in the tech field (gasp, yes, a woman in tech!), introverted, like to read and research, enjoy sci-fi and fantasy books and movies, among other genres. I'm a homebody, which can be hard in the dating scene because I don't love bars or clubs (too loud and too many people!) and I don't drink much. (No particular reason. Just doesn't do it for me.) I would say a fun adventure is choosing a new restaurant, park, winery, or old town to explore. Or a hike with an amazing view. Or hey, let's stay in all weekend. I'm sure we can find ways to entertain ourselves. <insert naughty face>

<<But she seems so perfect! What's the catch?>> *Some people* might say I can be outspoken, opinionated, and stubborn, with high expectations of myself and others... to which I have to say... Yeah... It's something I'm working on. Sorry not sorry. I think that part of me catches people off guard because my baby face and small stature give the impression of youth and passivity. And THAT really never stops being fun for me because I'm neither of those things. Despite outward appearances, I consider myself capable and independent in everyday life. I'm used to having control and making decisions, which I think is what makes it so freeing to give that control up at times to a trusted partner.

Kink and sex:

Is very important to me. It's taken me some years to accept my interest in BDSM even though it's something I've been interested in even before I knew there was a name for it. My marriage wasn't safe for that kind of exploration so it's really been in the years since my divorce that I've been able to explore that side of myself. It's been fun learning more about it and I've realized I need kink in a relationship to be happy and feel fulfilled.

I have switched in the past but tend more towards submissive. I'm a bit of a masochist but don't enjoy pain to the extent that it causes permanent damage or draws blood. I want a partner who wants to know me, my motivations, why my turn-ons turn me on. Because I want to know that about you too-- the psychological piece is so interesting to me and I love delving deeper into the whys and hows of a person's interests. Not just what you like but why do you like it? What part of it exactly gives you satisfaction?

Something I love about the BDSM lifestyle is the emphasis on safety, consent, boundaries, and communicating what you want and need. Which, yes, I get that those are actually all great things to practice in any relationship both in and out of the bedroom... Hmm, if I write a book, maybe it should be called "Being A Submissive Unicorn Taught Me How To Effectively Advocate For Myself In Everyday Life". (Too verbose?)

Select interests:

• D/s
  
• Impact play, particularly spanking and slapping
  
• Hair pulling
  
• Bondage
  
• Light degradation
  
• Praise
  
• Exhibitionism
  
• Orgasm control, including denial and forced
  
• Anal play
  
• Lots of others, and I'm open to exploring and trying more
  

Limits: age play, scat, blood/permanent marking, piercing, anything illegal.

Do not want a traditional/1950s household or Master/slave relationship.

If you're interested, send me a message and tell me about yourself and what spoke to you from my post. Please include your age and approx location in the DC area.

Thanks for reading!