I want someone who is ultimately invested in who I am, what I need, what's really best for me, and helping me to move us both towards who we were meant to be. I don't know how to label that, what terms to use, or how to explain it properly. But I will try.

I am demisexual and sapiosexual. So I need both an emotional and intellectual connection in order to feel sexual attraction. Someone who is also interested in romance, and deep talks, and sharing intellectual opinions. Someone who is deeply interested in learning my soul, my essence, my truth. Who I can trust and love and cherish and support and know as deeply as they know me.

I need a schedule, I need tasks, I need accountability. I need someone who cares, who has time, who is fulfilled by seeing me flourish. Who, in guiding and mentoring me, flourishes themselves. And yes, I want there to be sexy parts of things. I want there to be punishments. I want to be spanked. I want to be challenged and experiment. But I don't want someone to put their vision of a 'perfect sub' onto me like a costume. I want to create the relationship and dynamic together.

I'm 39, living in Atlanta for about a year and a half. I've been a teacher for 18 years and one of my goals is to cultivate a business outside of that. I'm childfree, white and on my anti-racism journey of challenging my own place in white supremacy culture and how to dismantle that, accepting of any and all weirdness and I have a deep appreciation of the unique and distinct. I'm autistic, and got diagnosed at 35. I'm curvy and learning to love my body.

I love reading, writing, and creating art. Board games, and cozy switch games, and nonsense reality television. I'm incredibly curious and open minded. Right now I'm focusing on meditation, self awareness, mindfulness, self care, and building myself up. But I'm struggling to be consistent, to believe that I deserve the investment, to believe I deserve to be cared for and loved.

I'd prefer someone within 5 years younger or 10 years older. Just because of stage of life. Someone confident, and curious and a clear, direct communicator, and bold, and courageous, and not afraid to be themselves. Someone funny, and smart, and thoughtful. I don't know if this will resonate with anyone, but I will never find what I'm looking for if I don't put myself out there.