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My husband and I are both switches, we both lean heavier on the submissive side.My husband especially is very submissive, or at least he used to be.
Every time I feel dominant, he's so eager, saying how subby he feels, but never wanting to do the scene I plan that are all things we both like. He only wants to do things that benefit him now, all of the fun non sexual scenes that leave me feeling like I have neither dominated nor gotten anything out of the scene. While he gets a nice relaxed nap, I find myself in Dom Drop after every scene.
What's happening here? Am I doing something wrong? Everytime I bring it up he acts like nothings changed. I'm starting to feel used.
He's using you as a kink dispenser. Sadly a very common issue among men who call themselves submissive
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You can stop bdsm with him until he understands what the issue is, or stop topping him until he understands what the issue is. Or keep things how they are and stay unhappy.