So I made myself some vegetable, bean and mushroom soup. I always cook for an army, and

one of the things I miss most about being in a relationship is having someone to share my cooking with, who is happy because they get to sit down and spend time with me over the dinner I've

made. I get that it's silly, but that's what I miss.

I enjoy all the other stuff too. The spankings. The indulging various kinks. The raunchy dirty sex. But getting that hasn't proven difficult, there are lots of nice people on here who want that with someone like me. What I miss the connection. So that's what I'm looking for. Someone who wants my presence, control and influence, who wants to share memories with me and build something together.

If that sounds like something you want, drop me a message or chat. Typical deal-breakers, hard limits, and a little about me is below.

I'm looking for something in the context of a long term relationship, short of permanent total power exchange, but not bedroom only. I require oral, including ingestion of semen, verbal and physical humiliation and degradation. I enjoy anal and watersports. Hard limits are multiple male participants, anything likely to cause permanent damage and non-consenting third parties.

I'm 40, 5'9" (175cm), overweight, not religious, never want children, and don't smoke. Blondish/brown hair. Recent clean STI test. Happy to share pictures once I'm convinced you aren't going to take my kidneys. My family is important to me, as is my work as a research scientist. Friends are important too, they are mostly scattered around the world and I need to be able to make time for them.

I enjoy composing music, modelling and animating in 3D using a program called blender, playing video games with my friends from around the world. Bavaria is a favorite travel destination for me, high places, beautiful lakes and forests. A history nerd, second century Rome is my favorite time period. I prefer small group events to say a disco.

Your level of experience is unimportant, as are your looks, height or weight. Your interests probably don't matter, so long as you are passionate about something. You like cuddles and attention and are masochistic or enjoy receiving pain to please your partner. Good communication and curiosity are highly valued.