I hope the mods will allow a review of a LS club, as I see a lot of people ask about them and thought I could share some useful information, especially for newbies (like us). We are a late 30's MF couple who is just dipping our toes (and other things) into the LS for the first time. Now onto the important part.

Kat's Fantasies - Naughty or Nice XXXmas Party, December 3, 2022

The Location:

As I understand it, Kat's is just resuming lifestyle parties after that whole virus issue that we shall no longer talk about. Kat has a new venue which is located in South Langley on a large piece of property in a quiet area with lots of parking. The venue is an entire house which features a locker/changeroom area, a dance floor, bar area, kitchen for snacks, several social (no sex) areas with couches/chairs an orgy room with several large mattresses at varying heights and several "private" rooms where play must be done with the door closed.

Amenities:

Kat provides condoms, water based lube, snacks (appetizer type stuff), a DJ, bar staff with ice and mix and a hot tub (not currently open but coming soon). There is a smoking area outside for those who cannot live without nicotine. Alcohol is BYOB and is surrendered to bar staff on arrival so there is a measure of control on consumption, and probably cuts down on a lot of spills and mess. This particular event also featured a naughty Santa Claus who stripped for the crowd on the dance floor and brought some ladies up to centre stage to perform with.

The Rules:

You can find this info on the site (just Google it), but basically no drugs, consent is a must, abide by the dress code, no drama and condoms are required for penetration. The rules don't differentiate between using condoms between partners, so the requirement really exists for all. In places like the orgy room it will be plainly obvious if someone isn't using condoms. However, the private rooms would be a different story, but one could only hope that the adults in those rooms are making educated decisions with the consent of all parties, and I'm sure they are.

The Crowd:

There was a good mix of different people at this event. Even though this was the XXXmas Party, technically this was one of Kat's "Greedy Girl" events where the party is designed to have roughly a 2-1 ratio of men to women. I think there were maybe 70-80 people in attendance, and I would say it wasn't far off of the 2-1 ratio. There probably twenty or more couples, with the remaining balance being made up of a few single women and more single men. As a new couple, we were mostly interested in more of a voyeurism opportunity and to see how it all works. We were open to adding a single woman, or maybe the right couple if the opportunity came up (more on this later). Those who arrived with the intention of seeking several male partners were not disappointed. Obviously the numbers of guests of each category will change based on the event type. Not all events will lean to greater numbers of solo males. That being said, everyone was very respectful and nobody was being overly pushy. There were lots of very nice and welcoming guests who made us feel comfortable.

Our Experience:

We had a good time. As I said, this was our first event, and it was a great opportunity to get some exposure to the lifestyle and see how it all works. We met a lot of really nice people, and learned how to navigate the dynamics of saying no when appropriate, which is not an easy thing to do. It was nice to be able to go to the bar for a drink, dance, sit down and chat, have a snack and wait until the right person (or people) caught your eye. We struck out with single women, but toward the end of the night met a fantastic couple who was also new to the LS. As soon as a room opened (which took a little while), we took advantage and had our first experience with them. Unfortunately we started late, with maybe only 20-30 minutes left before we all had to leave, so our time to play was a little limited. But it was super hot and we realized that we want more of what the LS has to offer.

Lessons Learned:

Communication is key. If you see someone or some people you're attracted to, go talk to them. They might be just as nervous as you, or they may be OGs in the LS world and cool as cucumbers. Either way, it's really not a big deal if you talk to them and decide it's not going to work. They may not be looking for what you have to offer, and vice versa. But you won't know unless you talk to them. There were other attractive couples there that we were a bit afraid to approach because we didn't know how to say that we really only wanted to play with "her". But that's exactly what we should have said. Next time, we will start earlier with the communication and be up front. Just introduce yourselves and explain what it is that you're looking for. They might say no (and probably very respectfully) or they might surprise you and give you exactly what you want.

Would We Return: YES

Edit: I should have added to the “lessons learned” to ask for contact info for people you enjoyed meeting or playing with. They may not want to share, which is totally fine, but it would be nice to know if our new friends were attending another party in the future.