This is a serious question too, so I’d really appreciate serious answers too. Basically, I worry a lot about fetishizing black people in a problematic way. As a white woman, I don’t want to just see someone for their body, but there’s so much content I’ve found that just really highlights everything I find attractive about them. I’ve always found poc very attractive, especially black men and women. On top of that, I have a fairly intense cnc kink and would love to try gangbangs too. So naturally my mind drifts towards a more forceful scene with a ton of black men using me however they want and I tend to shy away from that idea because I know that can be a major and harmful stereotype. But I’d want a scene like that with any race, too, so I can’t tell if my preference for black people is a harmful fetish or just a genuine preference in partners. On top of that I’ve only dated two black men in my life and that was extremely brief both times and now I’m in a polyamorous marriage with my white wife and I have a white boyfriend. Neither of them would have issues with me wanting to pursue these feelings, either, but all of that is to say I have 0 real experience with dating poc so my worry that it’s all a sick fetish of mine and I shouldn’t be wanting these things, especially all together (married but wanting cnc black gangbangs) I’m just genuinely unsure how to navigate these fantasies without being harmful about it all. Is there any advice I can have? Any white women having these same worries or any black men who can tell me where a line can definitely be crossed between “it just happens to line up that way” and “that’s actually so racist” with my fantasies? I might try to cross post this in other groups too just to see what the masses say. Thank you for reading this far! This is very vulnerable for me, but I’m ready to hear some hard truths if it comes to that.