I (DA) got triggered yesterday by someone I use to date and we’re trying to be friends. We fight alot so that’s why we ended things. We can’t seem to understand each other. When I get triggered I become monotone and usually analytical which makes the fighting worse because he doesn’t see any emotion in my voice or my face. I think I’m in the freeze response when this happens. I don’t know how to stop it from happening. Later I would say “I don’t want to talk about this anymore” when I feel like a big fight is going to happen. He’s learned to keep quiet after I say that because he’s learned I need space but his way of giving me space is unnatural like he would whisper and act like a robot. He’s normally very flamboyant and loud. it makes me stressed when he does this. Then I would feel bad for feeling like I wasn’t trying to solve the issue together and wished I never told him what I said. Then I would get a tightness in my chest, uncomfortable tingles all over my arms and have a very strong urge to run away. Then I would start to spiral and tell myself that I’m worthless and need to disappear before I hurt anyone else.