I've recently discovered attachment styles (thanks to Heidi Priebe's videos) and this way of thinking has helped me understand myself so much better. One thing I have felt a lot but never had a word for was "the ick". I get it a little in dating but I barely date so I mostly feel it in friendships or family relationships that get too intense. Just a strong feeling of repulsion that makes me want to get the fuck out of there and think of the person as little as possible.

I find it really helpful to get explanations of things or to hear other peoples experiences when I am working through my own stuff. So...does anyone have recommendations for how to learn more about the ick? Can be videos, books, posts, etc - anything that goes into where it comes from, what purpose it serves, how to work through it.

Or maybe some of you have your own answers to those questions. I would like to hear them! I just want to understand why this happens.