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AvPD as a gay man = alone until you die.
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At age 40, I made a gay dating profile on Skruff again, putting in my profile - 'ASD & AvPD and Demisexual', plus a description that I am not after sex and no NSFW option.

Anyone that does talk to me still around my age (mostly 38-45) are still sex obsessed and only looking for 'no strings attached' - even when they have selected the 'friendship, relationship and dating' tags in their bio.

Gay dating culture is heavily fixated on 'Sex first then I decide if I keep you or dump you'. Yet I am called toxic for being against this and valuing 'relationship before intimacy'.

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I think it's just an issue for men either way. Cause I'm straight and feel the same. You're expected to make the first move and lead things, but I can't imagine myself ever doing thatπŸ™ƒ Maybe I'll get lucky and find a woman who's into me enough that she takes the initiative, but I'm not getting my hopes up lol.

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