I am someone who's attachment style is pretty much a blend of anxious-avoidant and anxious-dismissive. I tend to be completely happy on my own, I can very easily go months without talking with most people, and quarantine during COVID made my mental health skyrocket to the highest point it's ever been because I'm generally happier alone than with other people. I am still good at emotional support but I generally had to be my own emotional support since... Well since as long as I can remember. At the same time, I put up a shield to avoid being hurt and the thought of anyone getting emotionally close to me terrifies me. Generally, I run away from commitment, emotional connection, and especially romantic connection; this is the main reason I never dated anyone. Occasionally, someone makes it through the cracks and I connect emotionally to them. I then cling HARD and give this person a lot of energy. This ended up happening with a person I know who believes they may have AvPD.

Long story short, I overwhelmed them and we had a bit of a falling out. I am willing to be friends with them and I offered, but all things considered, I do not expect to hear back from them soon or possibly really at all. With a better understanding, I quickly learned not to hold it against them. If, by chance, they are still willing to be friends, how would I be a good friend to this person? What would be helpful for it to work out? How can I be a healthy, comforting and non-overwhelming presence? Any dos and don'ts?