More of a vent post but if you have anything constructive to add, please feel free to do so.

I wonder how I’m ever going to find a partner when I get ghosted so often for misunderstandings. Not an argument or fight, just a misunderstanding. We’re humans & make innocent mistakes sometimes. When I take something that was said to me the wrong way, I try to ask & clarify what they meant. When the tables are turned, I don’t get the same treatment.

Maybe I just got a colloquial saying wrong or something like that. Maybe I didn’t respond the way they thought I should to a situation I had to go off script for & I didn’t know what to do. In these situations I rarely get a chance to clarify or try again. I get ghosted and or blocked right away. No second chance. Lots of times the ladies (just being specific because that’s who I like to date) will do the thing where they send a long message telling me I’m awful & block me before I have a chance to reply. A genuinely simple misunderstanding gets taken the wrong way & they get really pissed thinking I meant various things that I didn’t mean or intend at all. They go off the deep end without checking if what they’re thinking is what I meant first.

I try to learn from previous experiences and use it going forward but no two examples have been identical & I often don’t realize it until after the fact, that I’ve screwed up again. Maybe I’m just encountering people that don’t have much patience or empathy or emotional maturity, idk?

I treat people with respect & I care about their feelings. I never try to insult or offend someone, especially someone I might have romantic interest in. Maybe I just have bad luck?