Hi there person with ADHD here, I recently met a guy at an art show where I was vending my work. When he came to my table and spoke to me I was incredibly charmed when I chatted with him, bright, friendly, and just my type. In person, I found it really easy to talk to him. From my perspective, by the way we'd look at each other that there was some attraction going on. (But im treading carefully, im not 100 percent sure here) We exchanged contact information and I got the impression through text and conversation that he could be on the spectrum (i feel like many artists are lol). He doesn't communicate back the way I would usually expect conversations to flow, and instead will bring up another point like an image of something he drew. I wonder if this is related, but I've been told I am an attractive person, and it makes me wonder to what affect does that influence his communication with me and adds a layer of challenge. I know when I message someone I find sexy, I can feel anxious or even overwhelmed with what I could say back. So it makes me wonder what his experience could be and how these elements could combine.

We hanged out later the next couple of days (he said he wanted to see me.) and had a lovely outing. I really liked how much he knew about things especially about boots, which was a really big help when we went shopping. Dunno if it was just friendliness but we found ourselves getting close to each other often. It kinda almost seemed like we used hugging when we said hello and goodbye to communicate what we couldn't quite say. Really tight hug, feeling each other up, all that lol.

I liked how pleasant our conversations were in person, but I wish I knew what kind of rhythm I could adjust to so I can communicate with him in a way that allows him to easily respond in text. Especially BC he lives out the country, if we keep in contact I wanna be able to maintain some sort of communication.

Throughout our day on a little outing I got further impressions he's autistic/neurodivergent. And I feel like it'd be rude to straight up ask, and I feel like it's be weird to ask him how he'd prefer to message. I know being neurodivergent does not express itself the same in everyone, but generally I'd like to know what are some good ways to get a sense of an autistic/nd communication style? Any tips to keep on mind to engage or to know when he might need some space? I'd also wouldn't mind being directed towards resources or books.

Tldr: guy cool and eccentric, in person friendly and shares my interest with art. Hang out again, pleasant day, good humor, saucy embrace goodbye. Does not directly respond to what I say on text, hard 2 msg in general. Feels like he is potentially nd/autistic from what I understand. Even if he is not, I want to educate myself on how to communicate with those who have a harder time keeping in touch via text.

Edit: proofreading & and attempt at a better rephrasing of my subjective experience.