I’m a 25f my entire life my parents never believed me that I am on the spectrum of both ADHD/autistic no matter how many people would say I am even professionals that told them I am, even if I got reevaluated they would not show a care to the world. I’ve always showed signs and they notice them but will still chalk it up to nobody knows what they're talking about and that I'm not autistic/ADHD they'll notice the signs in everyone else but when it's me they want to stay blinded by it and ignore it.

Some examples are.

1.) my stimming, I’ve always rocked back and forth, repeated myself or copied something I heard in a video and would repeat that many times, played with my fingers, always had something in my hands to play with (gameboy, pencils, small toys I can roll or flick around.

2.) I was the quiet one, I didn't really talk much and was extremely quiet unless I liked you or if it's about what I like.

3.) When I really like something I didn't stop talking about it, showed my interests to everyone and wanted everyone to be into my interests.

4.) Not understanding social cues, I would say the first thing on my mind and still do, it's hard to determine a joke, I can't tell when someone is upset with me and if they are I don't know what I did unless I REALLY think about it, I cannot look you in the eye while talking eye contact makes me wanna run and hide.

5.) When I was in school I couldn't pay attention it was hard to pay attention nor cared about the work I was doing. Still pulled good grades despite looking like I was failing.

6.) I do/did better in smaller groups/classes, I got pulled into other classes and even went into some special education classes which I genuinely did better in. - my parents quickly pulled me out of them and fought to not have me go into them, then got mad when my grades slipped again. In groups I prefer at least a max of five to six people that's all I'm comfortable with and even with that I like working on one part myself and only myself, but if I have to work with others it needs to be small otherwise I shutdown

7.) I like being alone, I like being in a space by myself with nobody else around (pets are welcome) my room is like a safe space too me, if I get stressed out straight back to my room, we have guests over I go straight to my room, after work I lock myself in my room.

8.) I have my daily routines, I have places where I put things, I have certain spots that I like and once I claim it I have to be there, I put my things in very specific spots and that's where my things go (I.e. bedroom, fridge, in the bathroom, bus, work.)

These are just some of the things there are way more things that points that I am.

Regardless my parents thinking like this really made things harder on me in the long-run and honestly I would've preferred the extra help, them taking the time to understand me that way I can talk to them easier, I don't have to hide aspects about myself to them.

What can I even do to convince them? To me it sounds like "they're my kid, they can't be autistic."