Just wondering if anyone else has experienced an inability to date or be seen as a potential interest to others romantically or sexually. I'm a 25 straight male, who also has social anxiety and DPDR. I tried dating while attending university, but only found one girl who wanted to go through with a date, then wasn't interested after. All other girls I asked out, or matched with on tinder rejected me, or strung me along.

Due to only having bad experiences I became less interested after covid, but at 25 now it's really starting to get to me. I'm not sure if i'd enjoy having a partner, but to have only experienced rejection and no signs of others even finding me attractive has left me extremely miserable.

I would just like to know it could happen if I was interested, but i don't see that as likely. at all It feels as if i'm unwanted and undateable, like there's something I can't see about myself, and I plague myself trying to work out what that is. I'm respectful to women, and all people, I have a few hobbies, like to workout etc. I do feel in some ways I come across too much as just a friend, and not someone that can be viewed as dateable to women I meet, not that i don't mind having female friends too though, and I cherish the friends I have who are women.

I don't think matters are helped by my extremely ugly looks, and hobbies that don't provide ways to meet others irl. Being autistic seems to be the root cause of all this I can imagine though, but I see no way out of that. I volunteer at a charity bookshop 1-2 days a week, but can't work right now due to dpdr and how much I struggle in work with autism. I'm just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences, or advice.

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Edit: I should add that due to my ugliness, and how unphotogenic my face is I can't online date too well because I don't get good pictures of myself. Nobody will match with me when I have poor pictures, and many see this as a red flag.