I(25), have been working at my job for over two years. I had to go on a LOA for 7 months after burning out really bad, and just got back to work in November. I transferred locations as I had to move back in with family for support, and I’ve struggled so much with things I never had problems with at my old location.

I’ve been pulled aside for multiple conversations about people complaining about me to my managers, about how I’m rude/dismissive/make them feel unsafe/unapproachable. I am so utterly confused and have no idea WHAT I am doing to make them feel this way, and it’s disheartening when no one has ever mentioned this to me before so I don’t even know when it’s happening if no one is willing to say so?

I got written up for it once, received a final written warning yesterday and I’m just feeling like an absolute failure. Five of my coworkers have gone to my managers to say similar things in this past week and I thought I was doing better, and somehow things have gotten worse. I’m exhausted, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, what I’m saying, or how I’m being rude or anything when I’m trying so hard to be mindful of my tone and stuff.

And it makes it even more difficult when I get comments like “you’re always so awesome to work with”, “you always run the shift extremely well, and I feel good when you’re managing that day”, and then behind my back are saying the polar opposite to my managers.

I’m just at a loss, it’s making me feel physically sick, not wanting to be at work, when it feels like nothing I do is right.

My manager says they had a similar situation, where they’d been talked to about their supposed behaviour they weren’t aware of, but even then, I feel so clueless and stuck because no one is telling me things, no one will communicate with me, no one is willing to meet me halfway and just tell me if something is wrong or if I’m making them feel uncomfortable, EVEN WHEN I HAVE SAID THIS MANY TIMES TO THEIR FACES shdkdhdjfhdh

It’s just frustrating, going from one store that I never had these issues with, to one where it feels like everyone thinks I have an issue with them when there never has been to begin with, and I’m just tired 🥲