I am a 52 year male, recently married to a wonderful lady with a 10 year old son who's autistic. I am going to ask for patience and understanding from y'all, if I say something offensive please know it was unintentional and we can blame it on my ignorance of Autism.

I am looking for help, advice and recommendations to help me learn how to be a better dad to this wonderful, loving young man.

One thing that I struggle with is his pickiness with food. It seems if we decide to go out for dinner as a family we are limited to the same three restaurants. He has a twin sister that is not Autistic, and if we go some place she wants that is not one of his three, he gets upset and we either give in and go where he wants, or, he refuses to eat at her restaurant, and we end up ordering to go from one of his favorites. If we tell her we can't eat at her place and give into him, she gets upset and says mean things about his autism. Any recommendations on how to handle this? Thanks in advance and I hope this makes sense.