I'm sorry in advance, but explaining this might take a while.

I have three children; 7f, 3f, 1.5m. The oldest has a different mother than the younger two. I have not been diagnosed officially with autism, but it's a general consensus around these parts that my brothers, father, and I are most likely autistic. That is only pertinent due to my youngest two being wondered if they have autism. They both rhythmically headbang back and forth, bouncing their backs off whatever is behind them. They somehow actually can keep a beat like a metronome, and they will bounce sounds off each other like they're a part of the band Stomp or something. They are also highly hilarious, so it is sort of scary. My three-year-old is able to plot a joke out over several days' time.

On the concerning side of things, however, they will hurt themselves. Badly. They have a habit of slamming back too hard over and over where you know it has got to hurt, or they will just slam their heads, on the ground face-first. My boy acts like he is having a Confucius curse performed on him a lot of the time. my little girl has made her forehead bleed a few times already. She also absolutely refuses to do anything she doesn't like doing, unless I ask her or tell her a specific way, in whatever specific situation is happening (whether it's a command, request, plead, etc.). When I say "unless I ask" I am not exaggerating AT ALL. They both have horrible separation issues. They demand the same blanket, their food a certain way, all the common signs of autism.

Where there is wondering about everything on if it is truly autism, or if it's something sad, is that their mother abused drugs while pregnant with them. My baby girl was a victim of heroin abuse, and my only son is a victim of methamphetamine abuse. I mean, ABUSED the drugs, for most of their time inside their incubator. Somehow, only by God's sweet Grace, was she able to quit the last 1-2 months of her pregnancy in each one and neither baby had any in their system upon removal during c-section. I am afraid of dep developmental issues here. I don't think there is a link between autism and drug abuse in the womb, not that I have found.

I am just lost, man. No doctor will see them, for autism yet, they all say they are too young. The ones that would are booked almost a year out. I need to help them and I don't know how. They are continually hurting themselves and I am dying inside from not being able to truly help them.