Both children are on the spectrum. A lot of medical colleagues (nurses, OTs, doctors, etc) say our kids don't look autistic. They usually ask what the signs were, either out of curiousity or for confirmation of the diagnosis. One nurse told me autistic people had a certain look. I asked her what that meant and she wouldn't go further.

How do you guys respond to people saying your kids don't look autistic? I'm going to respond with, "what are autistic people suppose to look like?", but that's all I have. Any other responses I could throw at em?

Another few infuriating statements I hear which I would appreciate some responses:

"Don't believe the doctors with the diagnosis. It's a fad. Kids are being overdiagnosed."

"Don't let that define/limit them. Don't talk about it."

"At least they are verbal (or some other qualifier that downplays their diagnosis)." Or "At least it's not a visible disability."

I feel like unles you're in a wheelchair, people (even medical professionals) won't acknowledge a disability (rant).