My son (8) started with these type of issues a year ago and after a year of trying to get info from teachers and case workers. I think what is triggering him is social interactions/ sensory input. I’ve requested more support for him in class and I’m about to have another amendment meeting for him. I knew he was behind socially I just never realized how big of a trigger it is for him. He keeps it together at school and as soon as he sees me he cries and has all his outburst at home so his teachers were surprised with his behavior.

Also the only thing he is willing to share is the noise level. I requested OT for sensory issues. For the next amendment meeting I’m requesting more support for social skills development with his special Ed intervention and speech goals.

He’s also in the process of getting evaluated for adhd and dyslexia.

I think if they are un happy and start acting out more then usual it’s because something is going on with them that they can’t communicate verbally. We also started learning asl, I have visual cards for him and I have fidgets etc for him everywhere we go.

Everything is important and everything is a clue it just takes time to figure out.

It took me a year but now I know what I need to do for him in regards to requesting additional support for him in school. Because he’s triggered at school. They tried to tell me he’s fine and they also tried to say it’s my parenting. I still kept digging and took time talking to everyone and gathering what I could. Since I’ve requested more support and I started volunteering in his class I can see his meltdowns and aggression towards me have improved. He’s still triggered but they are not happening as often as they were before.

What I learned through everything is they show us everything because we’re there safe place and they trying to tell us something is wrong because they trust us to take care of them. The one thing she is willing to share I would pay the most attention to. My son complained about noise over a year ago and I thought noise cancelling headphones was enough and it wasn’t. It was the tip of the iceberg for him and all these other issues I’ve realized he has in school. And when I brought it up during the iep they brushed it off. I told them though if I didn’t see improvement I would be back for another meeting. We’ve had 3 this year and about to have another. He’s improved but I don’t think it’s where he would be if he wasn’t overwhelmed or so triggered every day at school.