My fiancée, who as far as I know is neurotypical, and I have issues in our relationship and I was wondering if any of what I am experiencing is familiar to you all—I am diagnosed with ADHD and I cannot currently afford the testing need for autism.

-I tend to respond to requests to the letter and not feel the need to ask questions during a task -I have difficulty with my partner having specific things she would like me to to mess with or ask her about during a task as any interruption for inquiries throws me off task -I have difficulty with the idea that her emotional state can both change on a dime and she both doesn’t mean all the things she says when angry. Additionally I have difficulty reading her emotional cues and knowing the correct thing to do or say when she is upset—as well as knowing that she has changed from wanting to be alone to wanting me with her. -I have difficulty with perceiving problems as simple. A lot of times, I find myself considering alll of the related issues of a task and find myself drowning in detail and implications-especially if it is for someone else. I can pear down a problem for me but it can be difficult for others.

-how other people perceive things is not always clear. I can image it for abstract people I construct or infer from the news but I struggle with people I know.

I do not know if I am on the spectrum but I have always found that people on the spectrum seem to be able to perceive the world in a way that makes more sense than neurotypicals sometimes do so any thoughts you have are valid.