My counselor wanted me to identify my frameworks and as far as I can tell she means scripts or rule structures I have in place in my life. I'm really struggling to do this though because it's a really unconscious thing and I'm just in the very beginning stages of realizing I'm autistic so I'm really not aware that things I do aren't just what everyone does. I also don't have a concept yet if what is my mask and learned coping vs not. So I'm just completely stuck on this. I was wondering if any of you could answer her question and maybe it will jump start my brain to start seeing some of my "frameworks".

Only examples I have so far were two things I mentioned in my counselling call and she says they'd be frameworks. 1)I was telling her about how I didn't make any friends in university even when it was a small program where only 15 students were all in the same classes together. We'd often sit in the classroom area together at lunch and mini groups would form and people would be talking and I'd be alone. I'd hear others conversations and have things I could interject and join but I wouldn't because I'm not a part of that conversation and I'm on the other side of the room so that's rude and would be eavesdropping and inappropriate to join. I guess I'm wrong though and that's a framework that held me back in making friends??? 2)I told her how I feel like there's an expiry date on social connections. If you go too long without talking to someone then that connection/friendship is now gone. You can't just randomly talk to someone you haven't for a year ( unless that's an established way you have with that person like my one long distance friend who I basically never talk to). If you wait to long then you're too late, you screwed up, friendship over. Again my counselor said this was a framework or something. I don't really get it.