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I'm at my in-laws' right now. We were supposed to come for lunch. About 30min after getting here, I'm informed "lunch" will be at 3. Actually, the turkey won't be done until 4, so fuck me.
I take my dog to the park every day at 4:30, and it's an hour and a half drive home, so that magic ain't happening. And my partner was like "you can take a day off from the park." Like, no, I don't fucking want to! We were supposed to be here for lunch! So I was supposed to be home for park time!
And this house is a sensory nightmare. It's entirely too hot, the dehumidifier is on for some fucking reason, I dislike the smell of turkey, the couch is uncomfortable. Oh and I'm fucking premenstrual, so I'm hungry, sweaty, and angry.
I'm about to take the fucking car and tell my partner to find is own way home.
Edit: thank you everyone for your support. I ended up having a mild meltdown, so we left 30min after I wrote this post. My in-laws are wonderful people, and they were very understanding.
Honestly, it may be a cultural thing. I took my ex to a BBQ "lunch" at the park. We swung by McDonalds on the way. I told him that despite the fact we were supposed to be there at 11:30, we wouldn't eat until at least 3, and I encouraged him to get a snack.
My family is spread out. We were all spending the weekend in the same city, so each "event" was hours long.
I don't see that there is a right or wrong here. There are different sets of cultural norms. It would have been nice if OP's partner had warned her in advance, though.
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I am with this suggestion. OP, yes, she went off script, and it interrupted your plan. That is hella frustrating; I do understand.
However, she isn't plotting your demise, she is just serving a very late lunch. NTs tend to view time and schedules differently than we do. In the same way that we expect them to give us grace, we should give them a little bit, too.
The fact that you are hungry, uncomfortable and PMSing is turning up the volume on your feelings about this. You may not be able to do anything about the temperature or the PMS, but you can have a snack and fix the hunger.