I am in my 20s and a couple months ago I met this guy on a dating app. We started texting each other long messages frequently for a few weeks. We were joking around and having good conversations. It seemed like we may be a good fit for each other. Before we met in person, he told me he was so excited to meet me because he felt that I was different than any of the dates he'd gone on and that he was going to give me a long hug when we saw me. He said he told his family about our date. We went to dinner and a movie and the first date went really well and we kissed at the end. After, he told me it went better than he could have hoped for.

The second date was only a few days later and he suggested we go to the movies. To me, it wasnt ideal because I wanted to talk to him more but it still went well and after the movie we went to my car and talked for over an hour. We were making out and things got a little bit heated. We had been sending flirty messages a few days earlier and at one point in the car I asked him what he was thinking and he said "I was wondering what you would say if I asked you if you wanted to get a hotel room with me." I basically said that I was tempted to and I kind of wanted to but I wasn't sure yet. He said "ah, okay I may have to do a little convincing." (which feels icky thinking about now) Earlier that week, in his flirty messages with me, I told him that he was such a flirt and that I liked it but that "I'm sure we'll have plenty of time (for sexual things) in the future if things keep going well." Then, he said he was fine with chilling out a bit as he really liked me and had "no intention of drifting off course with me."

Anyways, maybe a week after that day in the car, he said "feel free to say no but I thought it'd be fun if we just got a hotel room to hang out." He suggested we bring activities and my crochet supplies because he told me he'd want me to help him learn. Anyways, I figured we would probably have sex while we there. But, I liked him so much and he was telling me all these things so I thought he really liked me and this might turn into a relationship. So, I ended up saying yes. We ate dinner in the room and watched some tv and we did end up having sex. Afterwards, it felt like he started acting so different. This guy did not cuddle or kiss me or barely even pay any attention to me after we were finished having sex. (And of course it was done when he was if you know what I mean.) It felt so awkward and we just sat there watching tv afterwards not even holding hands or anything. I started to feel really angry about the way he was acting but didn't say anything. At one point he goes "we didn't even get to the crochet." And I said "well we could still do it. I brought everything with me." He goes "well there's no time now. It's getting late." After that, we kept texting but less frequently.

The next time I saw him was 2 weeks later and I was the one who asked him out. I suggested we go to a cafe I like and play one of those card games with questions that helps you get to know someone better. He said that sounded really nice as it's important to see how we click on a deeper level. Anyways, he cancels on me the day of (like 1pm when we were supposed to meet around 6) because he says he's feeling sick and we reschedule for later that week. That date goes very well and I started to feel excited about him again. We both opened up to each other and it felt very intimate. He was smiling and looking in my eyes and holding my hand across the table. After that date, I decided I was going to wait to see how long it would take for him to ask me on a date since the previous time it was 2 weeks and I had asked.

We kept texting but much less frequently and it took him 3 weeks to ask me out on a date. (Btw in these messages he would call me beautiful, cutie, darling ect.. but those names were slowly used less and less) When he asked me out, it was the night before and he suggested we get lunch the next day since he had been so busy but he wanted to try to see me for a little bit. I woke up the next morning and said yes I'd love to grab lunch, what time? He did not text me back until that night... I ended up telling him that hurt my feelings and he apologized and said he understood that was cruel of him and he would be better for me.

We rescheduled and ended up doing a dinner and movie again.. (even though I kinda suggested we do dinner and some activity together.) The vibes were off. My anxiety was honestly off the charts because I hadn't seen this man in weeks and last time we saw each other we had been emotionally vulnerable with each other. Not to mention at this point he was sometimes taking a full day to respond.. At the movie, this man did not hold my hand the entire time!?!?! At one point, I honestly felt like going to the bathroom to cry because I was holding back tears. But then, at the end of the date, I gave him a hug and was about to get in my car and he looked at me and smiled and said "give me a kiss" tf lol ???? So, I did and I got in my car and didn't look as he drove away because I was about to cry. I cried the entire way home.

After that, we texted for about a week and he would take forever to respond and I started taking longer too just cause that's what he was doing. A couple weeks ago, I texted him saying that there have been things he has done that have bothered me and hurt my feelings and that I noticed he'd started talking to me differently. I said I'm not going to ask anyone to like me or want to see me. I'm open to talking about this more in detail if he feels like it but otherwise I told him I was going to go because I know I deserve more than what he's giving me. He texted me back and said that he does like me. I have a kind heart and loving personality. But, basically he's been feeling depressed the past few weeks and he can't give me the type of love I deserve/ provide a good relationship for me right now. I essentially told him that I was angry he didn't just tell me that himself sooner but that I hope he's okay and wish him the best...

Anyways, looking back on everything my blood has been BOILING the past week and a half. I feel so disrespected and like he completely wasted my time. At the beginning, he was telling me that he's so ready to find his person and that I was so special. My sister suggested I was love bombed. However, I haven't told anybody about all of the sexual things and I'm just keeping that anger inside. It's starting to feel like maybe he was lying about his intentions. He made me feel so comfortable and reassured me he wasn't going anywhere just for there to be this huge switch in his behavior after we had sex. Anyways, I am tempted to text him and tell him the details around how that made me feel. I feel like I was too kind and forgiving. The way I acted almost feels disrespectful to myself because now I am just keeping all of that anger inside. Is it a bad idea to tell him all that?? We haven't talked in almost two weeks so the thought of texting him feels awkward but I think it could help me let go of the situation. I once had a situation with a guy that hurt my feelings and didn't tell him until like a year later but it felt so good to let it out. I'm not looking to fix things between us or even a further apology. I just want it to be known that I hate the way he disrespected me. I don't want to be a doormat. idk. I don't want to accuse him of anything but I also don't know if I believe his reasoning. Also, was he just going to slowly ghost me or what?? How long was he planning on wasting my time and disrespecting me?? It's been over a week since our "I wish you well" texts and I've been so angry and I have nobody to talk to about this.