Hi everyone

Looking for a bit of advice, my girlfriend and I have been having a tough time in our relationship over the last 9 months mainly from me going through my diagnostic journey and the grief that comes with it and them not communicating and struggling with us.

We had a break in March time (they forced this break on me with no warning and little communication which as an autistic person the change in routine and unknown I found gut wrenching) and during that time they were going out a lot and partying a lot. They said spending time with their friends was important to feeling better about us. There was one girl I could sense (autistic senses lol) they were getting a bit cosy with, flirting and being overly friendly. When I asked them about it later they admitted they might have crossed a line and behaved in a way that was disrespectful to us.

Since that conversation we agreed the next time they would see this girl they would have a conversation around boundaries with her (this girl always asks things like “have you broken up with your girlfriend yet” and is overly flirty and touchy). And we also agreed they wouldn’t interact on social media/ no liking photos etc as it can give the wrong message.

Anyway I’m on IG and this girl’s profile pops up on my for you page, and when I click on it, it shows my girlfriend has liked her most recent post, even though we explicitly agreed she wouldn’t do this. Not only this but she’s also liked nearly every single one of her posts for the last 2 years.

I’m looking for some advice, I hate social media as I feel it makes all of us paranoid, but also intuition and autistic senses is true and I can’t work out in this instance if there’s something else going on. I’m an extremely honest and transparent person and I hugely struggle at times with my girlfriends inability to communicate and does stupid things which they realise later isn’t right (for example recently they had a gathering at their place and didn’t invite me but didn’t even have a conversation with me I’m not invited. They realised after that was stupid).