I (32F) was diagnosed about 2 months ago with autism spectrum disorder. My husband (32M) doesn’t agree and won’t accept my diagnosis, he is also not generally supportive of mental health treatment.

Husband and I have been together almost 10 years, married for 7.5 of those. We have 3 children ages 4 and under. We both work full time in professional careers that demand a lot of time and mental energy.

I have always been a very direct communicator. People have described me as abrupt with a dark sense of humor. Overall I have a relatively flat affect, but I can keep eye contact, smile, and laugh when it feels like I should do so.

I’ve struggled with mental health for years. Crappy childhood full of abuse and basically in and out of therapy for the last two decades. I’m a world away from where I was mentally, but it has always felt like something is still missing in my functioning and human interactions.

Fast forward to 6 months ago. I ended up seeking out the help of a neuropsychologist to do an autism assessment. After weeks of document gathering, testing, and interviews I received the diagnosis. Despite acknowledging that some of the symptoms fit me - my husband refuses to accept the doctor’s results. He believes that I have intentionally skewed the results to get a diagnosis, but he can’t explain why he thinks I would do something like that.

I’m so confused as to what I should do next or how to discuss this with him. My whole world was turned upside down with the diagnosis and his lack of support on top of that is eating at me.

What would you do?