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I had to drop my cousin from being my MOH because she was causing too much stress and tried to take over my wedding.
She's very controlling, confrontational and demanding. When I voiced how I felt about her behaviour and stated my boundaries, she ignored them and just kept telling me she was disappointed in me.
Today she asked for me to pay her back for the dress she bought. My wedding is next April, she bought this dress 2 months ago. I didn't tell her to buy the dress or anything.
I'm feeling really anxious and don't know what to do or say. I feel if I say no to paying her back, she will cause me more grief. But if I pay her for the dress, she gets her way and I will be even more upset.
I feel she's just being petty and irrational and I really shouldn't have to pay her back for a dress she picked and bought for herself. She can even just sell it as it's from an online retail store.
She is the reason why she isn't MOH anymore. I feel bullied and pushed into a corner by her. This is how I've felt around her my whole life. My family know she's like this but they're all too scared to stick up to her as well.
Yeah, no. If you had picked out the dress, that would be one thing. You didn't. She picked it. She bought it. She is stuck with it, and it has nothing to do with you.
Tell her no, you won't do it because she, on her own, bought a dress that she picked out. These are her choices and her problem. Tell her that you aren't going to discuss it anymore. She calls you trying to talk about it, hang up. She texts you about it, delete the message and don't respond. She brings it up in person, leave the room. She follows you, leave the building.
Your "no" is enough.
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