I was staying at my friends house, and when I got home my whole room was re-arranged. My Mom cleaned out my closet to fit a dog crate in there for our dog, and my stuff was moved everywhere. My shelf was gone. All my school work was on the other side of the room. My bed was unmade, and my stuffed animals were in the wrong places. My shoe rack was in the wrong place. I also can’t close my closet doors now. I told her that I hate this and told her to never do it again. I know she wasn’t trying to upset me, but I’ve told her how much I value my room and that’s it’s my safe place. It sounds silly, because I know she didn’t mean too. I don’t know, it just felt like a big privacy breakage and I burst into tears. When I went downstairs and told her to never ever do that again (I didn’t yell or anything) I said,

“Please do not move my stuff around in my room. It was a break of my privacy and trust. I did not want the crate in my closet. I can’t close my closet doors, and it’s so cluttered all my stuff is all over my room and I have to clean it tonight. I’m very upset by this. Please don’t do that ever again.”

It sounds so harsh, but that’s kinda just how I talk idk how to make it sound nicer 🙃. She didn’t understand. When I went into my room to re-organize my stuffed animals (they have to be in certain places or I feel like I’ll hurt their feelings) I just couldn’t do it. I got diagnosed with ASD at 12, but no therapy has helped with these small things. So I told her I needed to go for a run (which is my favorite coping skill) and clear my head. I feel better now, but I have to clean this whole thing up before I can sleep.

I’m gonna explain it to her in the morning, and apologize for being so blunt. I think she’ll help me clean up. I just feel like a total baby 🥲

Update: she apologized and said she didn’t know it would upset me so much. I accepted it, and she’s going to help me move it all back to where it was. I couldn’t find my school pens that I loved, so she ordered me a new pair. Thanks for the support guys, it means a lot 🩷☺️