Introduction

My wife and I have a fully open marriage. Our love is monogamous, our sex is not.

In many open marriages, there is the "one penis rule" where the husband has the silly notion he can have conquests(in the mythical valley of dolls) and keep his primary partner from other males and isn't interested in his partners pleasure.

This is not the case with us. I take very good care of my wife and ensure that she has every one of her fantasies/desires/kinks fulfilled. With males and females. It has worked out well for her, for myself and for us jointly. It has greatly enhanced our communication, our sex life and our deep care/appreciation/desire/understanding for each other.

She now has some lovely gentlemen she is dating on an on-going basis and they are fulfilling some kinks of hers (she is slightly submissive / vanilla with me, but quite dominant with her other partners). We also have some male and female playthings we enjoy together and solo.

I am actively seeking a girlfriend for myself. Yes, I said girlfriend. I want to form a sincere, deep, meaningful but compartmentalized emotional bond with a special someone.

My wife is fully aware I am seeking this. She is very open to meet you with me one time if you want (ideally after you/I have had coffee and definitely before any physical interaction beyond handshake/hug).

She is also ok with not meeting you. We understand a strong "affair" taboo/kink scene exists. :)

Me:

• Married 17 years, together 18
• 39
• Brown hair/eyes, 6'0
• Calm, considerate, classy . A gentlemen.
• Logical, guarded
• Mid career professional , financially comfortable , well established
• Often described as very cute/handsome/"hot" (I receive quite a bit of positive female attention on a regular basis from a wide variety of females)
• I have a wife who keeps me very satisfied, so you'll never have to feel guilty if your time is limited or maybe your asexual or take a long time to warm up to sex/play.
• I would be looking to primarily date/play separately from my wife. .
• Can host or come to you as you are comfortable

Ideal girlfriend:

• Cis female / AFAB (this is a hard requirement, sorry).

I am flexible on all the below. Please consider this a general picture of the ideal partner for me right now based on much thought/interactions/exploring/connecting).

Fundamentally if we can have an intellectual connection, 6/10 points of mutual physical/emotional/mental attraction or more and we can have a fantastic conversation, I'm happy to see where it goes!

• Late 20s early 30s (I'm 39, anywhere 10 years either side is likely to work). Essentially I am seeking broad maturity, stability, intelligence. Depth of character. I've met 22 year old who fit all of that :)
• Career/education focused . Ideally you already have or are working on your postgrad in math/science/business/law or have built some kind of career.
• Enjoys meaningful conversation about deep topics. In person or via text. You speak in longform whatever the medium :)
• Comfortable with casually dating a very happily married man with a beautiful amazing wife who is fully supportive of this (yes you can talk with her to verify if desired)
• Interested in a man who is able to host, is discrete, honest, reliable, intelligent, kind, fun . A "steady booty call" that you can cuddle with and won't catch feelings or be a distraction or want more than you can give.

Sexually... I would prefer mostly vanilla / love making sexual relationship (perhaps some light restraint/blindfold orgasms denial/teasing play). I want the sex to be light/fun/playful/sweet. I have plenty of heavy intense kink play with my wife and our playthings. I'm open to exploring/teaching kink , but it's not my preference.

I am open to being "just" a stress relief toy/purely sexual partner, and if that means you need to tie me up and ride my face or other parts of me until you get your fill, by all means, say hello! :D

If you seek a polite, intelligent, kind gentleman who will make you cum just how you like, please reach out!

Chats and DMs open. Please send me a few paragraphs about yourself and what you are seeking.

Look forward to connecting with some amazing people!