Hello everybody. I and all of my siblings are diagnosed as AuDHD (or one or the other), and I'm positive my entire family is. However my mom is a champion masker, and hasn't read anything about neurodivergence herself. We've started to talk about how it's affected me in my life and I've tried to suggest that she consider looking into it herself. Her standard answer is that she's old and it doesn't matter.

I know that I've read posts from older women who received diagnosis very late in life and I was hoping that some of you might be willing to share your stories in the comments so that I can share them with her so that she might see the benefit or utility of understanding herself better. I'm most interested in hearing about how being diagnosed changed things for you, but also if you would be willing to share how you opened up to the idea of exploring it, or other related topics that would be useful also.

Thank you so much in advance for your time. I'm not trying to bully her into it but rather just give her some food for thought so I thought people's personal experiences might be useful. Thanks!

(Edit: I want to be clear, I am not trying to force her to do anything, etc. We have talked about these things, she's not closed off to them, but she and I are like WILDLY different people and I am just trying to get some personal experiences for what the process of diagnosis seeking/ND exploration might look like for other people so I can share that with her in case it's helpful.

I would appreciate it if people could please refrain from telling me how I should or should not talk to my mom about this. I understand that it's complicated and personal and that is not what I am seeking advice for. We don't have conflict there, I'm not trying to control or force her in any way, just collect information that she doesn't know how to access herself.

However, I would greatly appreciate it if you are willing to share any personal experience with diagnosis/self-diagnosis in late life.)