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Kind of a weird take so I’ll try to explain my feelings as transparently as I can before it comes across wrong.
With most people I just couldn’t connect. Ever. Talking to them felt and still feels like an auto generated conversation in a video game that doesn’t lead to anything specific.
I now realize that I experience this mainly with NT people… though some are spicy enough to communicate outside of the prewritten script.
I have a radar for other ND people, give me 15 seconds of interaction and I can kind of feel it that we’re on a similar wavelength, no need for them to tell me they’re also ND. The conversation patterns make sense and the person to me feels like a live player in an on-line game that I can actually interact with. So an ND person feels like someone who can do their own actions outside of what they were programmed to do.
And back to the majority of interactions with NT people… it’s like this world, this society wrote a script for them. Programmed them in a way where they can’t deter from it. You have a conversation with them but it feels bland, generic, prewritten… within context of the story and world you’re in, but it doesn’t add anything to your own experience.
I notice a pattern of NT people having such similar interests, hobbies, ways of thinking and conversing with others… like NPCs.
It just feels like I can’t interact with them outside of prewritten dialogue.
Anybody else or should I go see a professional about this?
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Sorry, this will not be an in depth contribution, but something I like to do to break the ice:
Firstly, I think it‘s funny to see their reaction. Secondly, I also feel like it makes them think and you hardly ever get a pre-made answer. Asking follow up questions (how does it compare to your favourite?) or listening to them think out loud can be insightful.
I do feel like certain people can be very bland. Maybe they‘re not for me, that‘s ok.
But I am also aware of the fact that being ND has made me very bad at following social norms. And not for lack of trying. We don‘t know what‘s going on in people‘s heads, especially not if they are good at conforming.
Best we can do is be as openly nonjudgmental as possible so we are given the privilege to catch a glimpse into the unexpected.
(I‘m too tired to re-read my comment, hope it makes sense lol)