Hi!! This little problem has been on my mind recently, and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions or ideas on how to not be so upset about it.

For some context, I’m 21 now, and I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 17/18 years old, and a tic disorder and bipolar disorder later that year. Around this time last year, I decided I was going to go through testing and evaluation to see if I also (or if I only) had autism, after compiling a bunch of research and “preliminary” tests that I hoped would help me know how to articulate what is going on in my life in words that wouldn’t make me seem like I was trying to “fake” anything. After (not even) an hour appointment with a psych, I took the tests a week or so later. When I got the results of those tests, the psych essentially said that because of the fact I acted primarily typical in my appointment, she couldn’t give me any diagnosis (including my current ADHD diagnosis) because I hit so many factors in the tests that she believed I was “faking” or trying to force my neurodivergence.

My biggest concern now with all that information is that I now work in an environment where control is hard to obtain, I am constantly overwhelmed from outside sources, and I’m wanting to stick with this job because I love it and the work I do. However, I’m having a hard time rationalizing asking for help or possibly even accommodations because I am worried that without a diagnosis, it won’t be received well. As well as that, because I haven’t gotten any help medically for these situations, I’m not exactly sure what I can do to assist myself in regulation and general accommodation. Does anyone have any tips or advice on these situations? Thank you!

TL;DR: What are some things I can do to help myself regulate and ask for accommodation as an undiagnosed person?