Hey there! I'm a 31-year-old guy from Denmark, software developer by trade.

The last few years have been rough on me mentally, and I have been out of the dating game for that reason. I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety and stress, and in fact had a stress burnout about a year and a half ago. However, I've gotten back to a point where I actually feel pretty good - so I'd like to meet some new people - hopefully for a date, but also friendship.

Before my burnout, I used to spend a lot of time writing comedic songs and sketches for the student revue at my university. As well as being on stage, making props, making videos, ... - I spent a lot of time on that. I graduated about 4 years ago now, so the burnout kind of marked the end of that for me. Now I'm looking for a new hobby to take up, and give me some more meaning in my life. If you have any good suggestions, I'd love to hear them.

Most days, I like to go on a long walk and listen to audiobooks. I tend to mainly listen to non-fiction - I love learning, you know? Recently I listened to "Talking to Strangers", and am currently listening to "Why We Sleep". Other favorites include "Bad Blood" about the whole Theranos business and stuff by Steven Pinker.

I like to occasionally indulge in playing video games. I'm not the biggest player - often I like to watch other people play instead, especially for more complex games. However, I'm currently playing a bit of Oxygen Not Included, Bloons TD6 and Hexcells Infinite. I've also got a Nintendo Switch, which I really should play more games on, but haven't for some months. ^^;

I'd also love to hear you tell me about your own passions. Do you have a silly obsession other people won't listen to you ramble on about? Try talking about them to me!

Other interests of mine: Food (eating, making, learning about), board games, comedy writing, musicals, programming, fountain pens, TikTok, Rubik's cubes, psychology, YouTube. I'm also 420-friendly.

One of the things that helped me feel better about myself recently was, that I got diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. It's been quite the life changing diagnosis for me. I've been struggling my entire life, feeling wrong, fighting hard to hide it. That caused a lot of anxiety, and eventually I burned myself out with stress from trying to be more than I can be. I got my diagnosis this summer, and I just feel so much more relaxed since I've gotten it. Now I'm trying to understand how to function well without being driven by that fear. :)

I do have some things I have a hard time with, which the diagnosis explained to me. It takes a lot of effort for me to organize things, initiate things and make decisions that don't have a right answer. Not to be understood that I cannot do them at all, but they can take a lot of mental power for me to do, so often I find myself postponing them. It's usually new things that I get stuck on, so I like to set up recurring rules/systems to avoid these problems - and that works well enough for a lot of things.

Because of this, it probably would be nice if you're a structured kind of person, so I have some structure I can latch on to a bit, or so I can ask for help on decisions or setting up structure.

One thing it definitely doesn't mean is that I won't help out and be lazy. I love to cook, and want to help out however possible. I just might need some help setting up routines for it sometimes. 🙂

Obviously, I'd most prefer to meet someone else from Denmark, but no matter where you're from, your message is more than welcome. You're also welcome to write if you're a man, or just looking for friendship or whatever. I like to think I'm nice, so I'll try to get back to you.

I do tend to get a bit overwhelmed by replying to messages sometimes, so if I'm slow to reply, I may just have exceeded my message writing capacity. I apologize in advance, it just takes a lot of energy to write a good reply, and I don't always have it. And I don't want to kill the conversation with a shitty reply, you know? 🙂 Guess that's just one of my quirks - maybe an Aspie thing? Who knows. ^^

So, um, yeah. That's me. Hopefully I sound interesting. Looking forward to hearing from you!