I’m 41, mom of 2, open relationship with my husband and a partner of over two years. I’m also in graduate school finally pursuing the career of my dreams as a counselor. One of my biggest insecurities has always been my looks. I love to work with women and work with several younger women in my internship. When they tell me about being approached by men or I read about it on forums such as this I always wonder, why doesn’t this happen to me? Why has it never happened to me? Not in a bar, not on the street, undergraduate classes, work, never. Am I just that ugly? I understand that now I’m past the “wall” or whatever bullshit but I was young once. Just wondering if there are other women out there struggling with this same, kind of stupid and vain, problem.