So I’ll preface with saying we live far apart about an hour and 45 mins away. I’m in school full time and work 3 jobs ( casual positions) he doesn’t work. We’ve been friends for more than 10 years but have only been dating for 5 months or so

Driving there is expensive but I tend to go there more than he comes here, two days before his dog was put down I ended up going there to say goodbye because she was a big part of my life too.

I asked him a few days after her passing when is he going to come here so we can hang as he mentioned before it would be a welcome distraction but I also live a busy life so I wanted to plan…. He says I was suffocating him and it’s not on his list of priorities

Now he’s saying he can’t commit to any of the plans we made prior ( like big events I rsvpd us too) and I’m just trying to be as understanding as possible but it’s hard not to be upset.

Am I in the wrong here?? How do I be understanding?

Thanks