I had relationships with a couple guys that prefer to not share when i did some they did not like or that upset them. They prefer to let it go, process themselves and eventually resent me 🙃 a few female friends share the same experience.

The reasoning I hear often is that they don’t want to start a fight, or it’s not that big of a deal. It really pisses me off, because I get that as not caring enough about me or the relationship to work on things.

I posted this subject on a “Ask Men” sub and the answers are basically that we have big emotions and they don’t want to deal with that, or that we going to take it wrong and not being able to accept the critics.

Okay, that can happen, but that also not happen. It feels to me another form of “let’s keep this from women, because they can’t handle their emotions, so I’ll decide for her what’s worthy to know”.

Kinda done with this sexisms that keep us both man and women in little boxes and is blocking us from connecting deeply outside of our gender.

Also this makes me feel like I’m always nagging and complaining in my relationships. I want to share stuff with my partner so he knows how certain behaviours affect me or trigger me, and I want to be able to do the same for them. But I will not know what hurts them if them don’t speak.

Share your experiences 🙏