So, I'm asking from the perspective of someone who is on the spectrum. One area of stunted understanding for me has been the intuition to relate to others perspectives and understanding the emotional context of a situation to know how to react/take action in response to that event. Can it be overwhelming to have to ask for/spell out what you are seeking in particular when you are already under the mental load of whatever is troubling you?

Kind of an analogy to give is what comes more naturally and intuitively to others we have to learn manually or establish a guideline to navigate these situations. There is a desire to understand but it may at times not come naturally come to us, even with therapy, so at times desires/perspectives related to the matter still might need to be spelled out as it relates to the unique perspectives each one of us have. Essentially I guess addressing the why more so than the how. Also partly because I am inclined to usually not expect/seek support in this regard.

Tbh personally, I do feel discouraged about the prospect of pursuing a relationship as I observe aforementioned POV a more common theme. Just for better understanding, tangibly why may it feel exhausting to some to spell things out in regards to emotional support? Someone mentioned the term sunken cost with respect to this aspect. Is it like the sunken costs of concessions made or your partner being avoidant/shutting down because they feel overwhelmed? Tbh I am guilty of that behavior too and am still learning how to work through those feelings.

So I guess for someone with the above mental disposition and characteristics or related perspectives, realistically what would you want to see or come to fruition to be afforded more grace coming from that end of the emotional support spectrum? I know one of my homegirls has reminded me not to think that most women don't have the patience for being stunted in that department or there isn't someone out there that will be able to meet me at a level that is realistically possible for me and still a fulfilling relationship for my partner.