I’ll preface this by saying I had - what I now realize in hindsight - was a very fucked up sexual relationship with my husband, that was pretty much completely lacking in passion or real intimacy. He was my first boyfriend and true sexual partner, so I didn’t realize there was a world out there where sex doesn’t have to be so mechanical and devoid of emotion.

With that being said, I’ve been in a fwb situation with a guy for about 2 months. We’re both really busy with work and kids so our schedules have only aligned a handful of timees over those 2 months. First two times we went on dates, then fooled around and now we’ve gotten into a routine where he just comes to my house, we chat for a bit, have sex and he leaves.

Last night, however, he ended up staying the night. The sex was very passionate, and then we ended up cuddling until we fell asleep, feeling all over each other, etc. It was more intimate than any night I ever had with my husband over the course of 16 years. I don’t have feelings for him at this point, but I’m concerned I could develop feelings if things continue being this intimate. On the other hand, maybe this is just normal sex, but I never experienced it before so it feels overly intimate?

I guess the question is - how intimate are your FWB situations? If they have a lot of passion and intimacy, how do you prevent catching feelings?