Hello all,

I'm 44M, my wife is 36. We've been married for 11 years, been together for around 18 years.

I was lying in bed this morning, had a few cuddles, just lying there, being together. We hadn't been intimate in about 12 days, no real sort of kisses or touching.

So I whispered to her if she wanted to make out with me.

"I'm not really into that kind of thing."

Totally out of the blue and didn't see it coming.

Not too sure on what to think. I asked her, she said it usually leads to sexy time, which....isn't that the point?

So my question to you ladies is, how do you want your husband to keep the romance alive? What do you want us men to contribute amd what are women generally willing to bring?

Edit, I work 8 days away from home, with 6 off, so out of those 12 days, I was away for 8. The time of.no intimacy isn't really the issue, it was the sudden "I'm not really into that anymore" that caught me off guard