After over a year dealing with many issues in my marriage I (30sF) am now contemplating divorce. He (30sM) is a good guy but we have a lot of problems (dead bedroom, libido mismatch, poor communication and trust among others). Together 5Y, Married 1Y and issues were there before marriage, I saw and was hopeful for change and ignored my doubts. I don't think they are fixable, as we are both incapable of meeting each other's emotional and physical needs to the level we each deserve. We could push through and stay married but I don't want to be a wife that just "pushes through", and is constantly fighting frustration and resentment. I feel I will easily have an affair down the line and already fantasize about imaginary men. We both deserve better and have no children so part of me feels now is the time. We have done marriage counseling for a while, but are now separating. Since separating he is making changes ... But the change comes after I already checked out and I'm too disillusioned and drained to check back in.

For women who have divorced the "good guy" how did you navigate feelings of guilt, shame, isolation and judgement from friends/family. How did you heal yourself and develop a positive mindset? On the other hand, did anyone regret divorcing the "good guy", and if so, why?