I’m a firm believer that statements made during a fight - even if said out of anger - still have some truth to them. I’ve asked my husband for a divorce, and I’ve hired a lawyer but he’s dragging his feet on hiring a lawyer on his side. He’s acting like I’m going to ruin our daughter’s life by asking for a divorce, when it’s pretty apparent he doesn’t want to be married to me either.

The other night he was coming down on me pretty hard and I couldn’t take it anymore. I told him that if he put half as much effort into our marriage as he did jerking off to random women on the internet (he’s a porn addict that won’t admit it), then we probably could have had a halfway decent marriage. In response, he said it’s been impossible for him to have a marriage with someone who has no personality. I asked why he married me then, and he said “you were 22 and hot, and I was 32 and found it exciting, then I just got comfortable.” I’ve already felt this might be the truth, then he said it. He immediately retracted and said he didn’t mean it, and was just trying to hurt me.

Any chance people say things that are completely untrue during arguments? Or is there usually some truth to it.

I feel a lot of guilt over breaking up my family so it helps to know I’m not making a mistake.