This is grossing me out but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting. I’ve (37f) been married to my husband for 12 years (46m). Our sex life has been lacking most of our marriage - he seems distant, I always have to initiate, he would go months rejecting me, etc. It has been better in recent years as far as consistency, but still lacking as far as him seeming distanced, always closing his eyes and seems focused one something (or maybe someone) else.

He admitted about a year ago that he masturbates to porn a lot. I don’t mind porn, not a real issue, until it seemingly started affecting our sex life.

Now, however, I saw a box in our house for a virtual reality headset he never mentioned. He doesn’t game or anything so I’m pretty certain he uses it for VR porn. From what I gathered online, it makes it seem like you’re in the first person having sex with the porn star in the video.

I’m really grossed out by this. Anyone think I’m overreacting or would you feel the same?