So I talked to my best friend about this situation and he gave me dope advice and now I wanna know what actual women think lol.

Context: I’ve know this girl for about 5years now. We’ve both been in relationships along the way, me with 1 women and her with a few guys. She’s about 4years younger than me and this is the first year where we both are single and actually get to be friends and it’s always been us just being friends, and really nothing else.

But now we’re here, it’s been about a year of us being able to just be friends. I’m the one who confessed feelings first but coming off some traumatic things of my own and she had just got out of a terrible relationship with DV physically and emotionally with a terrible breakup as well and a year worth of trauma that just kinda got solved once I came into the picture.

We’ve had these conversations a few times and each time things change a bit, but not much, she understands my feelings but knows shes not ready for anything and wants to take the time to heal herself which I have the utmost respect from, I lose my mom in June and broke up with my 6year relationship and I also need to take the time to heal and process, but I see us drawn to each other and more so her being drawn more and more to me over the course of this year.

The situation: We work together, see each other almost everyday after work and hang on the weekends when we can. But yesterday she opened up to me about some of her feelings around me her and “us” for the first time ever really & it was a lot of things, she’s ready and willing to have sex with me, doesn’t want to cause she feels like it’d be a mistake, she’s feeling like she wants to feel strongly about her freedom while being single, dating, going out, no strings attached. But she’d feel guilty if she decided to talk to anyone else, she appreciated the things I’ve done for her and knows that it’s more than any normal friend would do, she doesn’t like the way she’s choosen her last partners but ultimately choosing me almost the same way by just putting me In her life in almost all ways, her attraction to me is real and she feels it through the person I am, and although it doesn’t seem like it through her words, her actions show me I’m doing the right things as just today she asked for the first time to stay at my place this upcoming Saturday after she comes back from a birthday/Halloween party so she can drink and not drive.

My question: do I leave her alone to work on myself and allow her to see I can become this very healed man for not only her but myself or do I potentially leave her alone for her to choose someone else OR do I keep doing what I’ve been doing? BONUS, I got a feeling she’s going to want to have sex with me this Saturday, do I respect what she’s told me about her boundaries or handle my business as the man I know I am?😌

There’s a lot left out about me but the question is very current lol, I feel I’ve respected everything she’s asked me and now idk if I wanna do what I know or just let her keep dictating this thing lol