TBH, I am fed up with dating apps, and either as a cis man the odds are too much against me or I am just too stupid.

On photos (Meanwhile I think they got better, but I got real issues to smile, especially with open eyes, on demand), bio or the first message (OkCupid users: How and when do you see the "introductions" I am constantly sending to people?). I did write messages in all forms without sexual harassment, sometimes light-hearted and short, sometimes much in-depth, sometimes a personalized poem, often a message directly approaching their personal profile and interests.

How many of your first messages are just "Hey", "What's up?" or dick pics etc.? Because I do way more effort into messages like that, but not even recieving a reply which includes a friendly rejection is coming back at it.

Recently, I did put on my profile that I don't want to have sex on the first date(s?), and honestly I also did put this in messages, but the latter might be just too much.

My profile is much filled out, with much text, and maybe too much. For quite some time I was somewhat afraid to put in niche/cringe hobbies/interests because I thought it would scare people away, though.

At this point I am considering to just write into my bio:

"If you are a brony or furry or furrybrony or like scifi or boardgames or talking about politics and society just send me a a message

no sex on first date

I have uninstalled the app because all the constant dating-apps swiping don't do me any good but I will get an email when I get a message and then will login for it again

Please take care of you mental well-being"