I’m unsure of how to phrase this.

Recently I was told I come off as a “Joe Rogan bro”. To a degree I can’t help this, I have a shaved head (better than holding onto the dream lmao imo) and I’ve grown a beard. I would have no problem getting rid of the beard after I lose say 10-20lbs, but currently I’m not comfortable with my jawline. This isn’t to say I’m visibly overweight, just heavier than I would care to be, I’m about 5’8 and roughly 200lbs and working on it. I do have a naturally muscular build, so broad shoulders, visible abs although not defined etc etc.

Now I do dress well, not like a schlub at least. Typically it’s v-neck fitted shirts, maybe some plaid on top and stylish jeans or some lulu ABC’s.

I’ll admit I have RBF, but I make an effort to smile and/or laugh and have a great smile/teeth.

This confirms what I was told in my mid 20s, that I’m intimidating. Maybe not in stature but in other ways.

I would love to “soften” my look. I’m shy but am also open. I have found that over the last two weeks, since I received the joe rogan assessment, that it’s quite bothered me. I’m open minded, believe in lgbtq rights, indigenous rights and overall count myself as an ally to different demographics. My overarching belief is that everyone deserves love.

Being sensitive this has disturbed me and for whatever reason I can’t shake it, so maybe it’s something I need to work on?

Anyways, any tips or advice would be appreciated to make myself more approachable. As a single late 30s guy, yes I still dream of my romantic “ever after”.

Thanks :)