Hi,

Before you judge me by the title please let me explain. Please give advice.

So my gf and I have been dating for 2 years, my girlfriend always claimed it was impossible for her to cum from someone stimulating her other than herself.

But since I’m the first serious relationship she has I always felt like it could be done. Based on her reaction when I was giving her oral. After about 8 months of re assuring and trying my best everytime we finally got to the stage I can make her cum everytime I please her orally. It was a very big mental barrier she had to let down for it to happen, and I’m glad we got to that point.

This is something new for her and quickly became her favorite thing for me to do to her, I also love doing it and theres no better feeling than knowing I can get her off.

Our sex is really good aswell, I think we experiment a lot and I’m big enough to be confident in my doing.

Yet there is one thing that bothered me.

In the past few months I noticed she barely gives me blowjobs anymore or when she does they are very short and to me they feel like she’s doing a chore. I mentioned this a while ago and she said No I love sucking your dick and that there was nothing going on it was just because sometimes we don’t don’t do foreplay and just fuck. Hence why it felt like she was giving less head.

The last time she gave me a blowjob it barely lasted 5 minutes before she wanted to continue to sex, I felt kinda weird about it again and decided I was just gonna have sex straight away or give her oral from now on and skip the parts where she would blow me.

Later when we were chatting and I asked her about it she mentioned going up and down while giving blowjobs sometimes gives her a headache or makes her headaches worse. She has migraines a lot of the time so I can’t really doubt her.

Since I want sex to be enjoyable for both of us I was 100% sure I didn’t want a blowjob again. If i feel guilty about causing her discomfort or if she isn’t giving it her all I’d rather just pound her brains out instead

We were making some jokes last week and she mentioned something about “sure, till I suck your cock again” to which I replied I don’t want blowjobs anymore.

I didn’t think she would take it the way she did, she got very upset with me and even started crying because she wasn’t allowed to suck my cock anymore. I told her the reasons (headache, short duration, unambitious) it led to a very long fight.

After everything I decided that for my pleasures sake I never want her to blow me if she isn’t 100% feeling up to it, even if she has a hint of migraines I don’t want it. We try so hard to be thoughtful and considered about each others feeling and desires. She re assured me she can’t live without giving me blowjobs but I feel very conflicted. I simply cannot enjoy it If i feel something is up.

She kisses my cock every morning and is always telling me how beautiful it is and that it’s a “porn cock”. I love our sex but my pleasure from oral is just way higher.

How can I find comfort in getting blowjobs I feel like she can’t really fit much at all (or for long) despite many practice sessions. When we first started dating I could barely get hard let alone cum from her oral, but at this point it doesn’t take her long to suck one out. Just wish I could enjoy it to the fullest

Was I wrong for trying to be considerate ?