Lately, I've been dating this wonderful woman. We started around four months ago, and since the beginning we were very intimate. Before we really got too deep into anything, we formed a very open line of communication, and it's allowed me to be very vulnerable with her. More so than anyone else, where I feel like I can tell her most things(We....had a conversation about some past events I'm not able to talk about yer, but she told me it was okay. Made me break down in front of her.)

This is me being dramatic a bit I guess, but I don't know how to tell her my sex drive is gone.

As a younger kid and teenager, I got really exposed to porn and it severely messed me up in more than a few ways in the bedroom. Not like I want to beat her or hurt her (No judgement, just not for me,), I have just developed a lot of self-consciousness and body dysmorphia.

Through my last relationship, I had some of problems stemming from this as well; I couldn't do certain things or had them done to me. I.e. choking, ropes, chains, sharp objects.

I've told her about my issue with porn and my limits in things, and she was very understanding and kind and she made me feel...very human, and just like she really heard me. I've never felt more loved or attracted to someone before, at least not on this level.

But now, I feel like I'm losing my sex drive. I get very grossed out and if for any reason one of us has to stop for a moment(Yeah I already feel old), I'm not able to get it up again. I can tell this upsets her, I get it. I'm leaving her....wanting, and not giving her what she wants or needs. I feel like a failure of a man a bit.

Question: How to tell my girlfriend(21) without her getting mad/thinking less of me