I (25f) am in a relationship with my boyfriend (24m). We promised each other, that we will always speak up if something bothers either one of us. Now, like 3 months ago my boyfriend told me, when we were casually talking, that he enjoys having sex like 1-3 times a week. At the time I wasn't thinking of anything, but this got really into my head and I feel stressed that we have to have sex. Please do not understand me wrong, he does not pressure me in any way, because he never brought it up again. I also love to have sex with him, because he really cares for my pleasure and always makes me come. But since he said that, it bothers me so much that we only have sex every other week at most. And that is because I am stressing myself that much, even though, as said, he puts no pressure on me.

I don't know how I can get rid of that thought, but I want to. We also had a quick talk about it and he assured me that that wasn't his intention and that he doesn't want to have sex if I don't want it.

Maybe it would be better for me to just give him more blowjobs so I at least know that he is pleasured and maybe this would then take the pressure away from me. However, that is probably not the best solution. He also asked what he could do so that I would not feel pressured, but I really couldn't give him an answer as I don't know myself.

So, I guess, thanks for listening and your advice :)