I don’t know what to do. I had my suspicions that they were having intercourse but not until she was 20 and I was the 11 year old. They slept in the same bed and were always around each other. I know this because we lived together with my dad.

I hadn’t talked with my stepsister until she moved to Texas, got married, had a child, and I just ended up sliding up on her Snapchat story to catch up after almost 10 years of no contact. We caught up, had some nice conversations, until I asked her about her relationship with my uncle. I told her my mom had suspicions that they were having sex but did not know for sure.

She ended up breaking down and telling me that my uncle groomed her when she was 11 years old and he was 33 years old. He was apparently very obsessive over her and possessive to the point he wouldn’t let her date boys her own age and would make her feel bad about herself for not being of use to him. She said she let it continue even though she knew it to be wrong because she felt it was her only purpose to fulfill his needs.

My question here is what am I supposed to do with this information. She said he may have evidence (videos, pictures) in his possession still. I know I cannot do much legally as it was so long ago. My biggest issue is that my dad lives with his twin brother, my uncle. I just recently mended my broken relationship with my father. I am planning on meeting up with him at a restaurant to ask him if he knew about their relationship. I got my stepsisters permission to ask about it, as she has no idea if he knew or not (before she was 18).

If he knew, how am I supposed to face him? It is his twin so would he have the same attractions to minors? My dad did some sketchy stuff when I was younger such as forcefully stripping me naked as a young teen to treat me for lice and cuddling with me saying my stomach was so soft as he rubbed it pushed against me.

I own a gun, and I am quite certain if I ever see my uncle again I will shoot him. It disgusts me that I lived in the same place as a pedophile and that I was alone with him a lot of the time. It could’ve been me.

TL;DR: My uncle groomed my stepsister when she was 11 and I don’t know how to move forward with this information.