On reddit I've noticed A LOT of women alluding to or outright saying that receiving oral isn't very common (or nonexistent) in their relationships. Now, to be fair, I have a lot of subs that are sex related or where women post about sexual things pretty frequently, so I'm sure there's some kind of selection bias going on, but I'm slightly aghast at the idea regardless, ESPECIALLY when it comes from women who claim they never orgasm during sex.

I kind of get it for very young women/teenagers. It's hard to ask for what you want if you haven't figured out quite what that is yet, and when sex is pretty new to you I feel you're a lot more prone to being self-conscious. But is cunnilingus really so underutilized in so many relationships as I think?

I've been having sex for a decade now, and there is only one real way for a partner to make me orgasm- oral sex. Oh, I can use a vibrator in certain sex positions so we can get there together, but it takes a lot more planning/a lot of pausing and starting up again. Plus it's pretty tiresome stuff and I feel like I can't concentrate on the moment when I do it. Manual stimulation doesn't do anything for me really, so that doesn't work either... And those couple's toys, like the We-Vibe? Sadly, not enough pressure on my clit during for it to do anything, and the vibration only makes my partner cum faster. Basically, what I'm trying to get at is that since during sex I can only climax one way reliably, I can't see myself being with anyone who wasn't enthusiastic and at least somewhat talented at giving it. And not JUST because of orgasms, but what it represents to me- an act of selfless love that shows me they care. I also almost always reciprocate unless my s/o wants to get straight to the PiV.

Now I have never in my life had a male partner refuse to go down on me, so thankfully I've never encountered this particular issue. For the rest of you... How important is receiving oral sex in a relationship, serious or casual? What are your experiences with your partner's willingness to do it, past and present? Is there any kind of shame or shyness regarding receiving oral for you (hygiene, or feeling guilt about length of time, etc)? If so, do you think it affects your sexual satisfaction?

I wanna hear it from all the angles.