In talking with some lady coworkers recently I've started to pick up on some really intense feelings of dislike towards a specific coworker of mine that I consider a friend. Some of my coworkers have been, to put it lightly, a bit irrational. One coworker telling me that she "Would totally be okay if someone killed (my friend)."

I'm wondering if what's occurring could be based on a bit of group-think combined with some major jealousy. My friend in questions is objectively really attractive, and gets quite a bit of attention from men. I kid you not, on several occasions men have left their number for her at the front desk of our work. And I'd be remiss if i didn't note here that I do have some amount of romantic attraction for her too, so my own perspective is a bit biased. Part of my goal with this post is to help sort out a lot of the opinions I'm getting about her.

However, that being said, my specific coworker has given a pretty negative first impression to many people at my place of work. She can be pretty moody, and has been rude to a number of people at my workplace, so any negative feelings towards her aren't entirely unreasonable.

Though in reality, I'm interested in jealousy as women experience it as a whole, because it's genuinely fascinating. Honestly, feel free to disregard my entire post, because it's a very specific situation. Thanks for any perspectives you might have!

Edit: just to clarify a little bit, I'm not assuming the poor opinion of my coworker is entirely the result of jealousy, or is a factor for everyone involved. Indeed, I'd assumed that all the negativity in play towards my friend was the result of her behavior, and only within the last few days have I even thought that jealousy could have been a factor.

Edit2: First off, Thanks so much for the responses so far! It's been really helpful getting all your perspectives on this, both in a general sense, and in my specific situation. While I'll never really know what's going on with my coworkers in regads to this friend of mine, it's clear that jealosy probably isn't the main motivating factor, but given some peoples' behavior it wouldn't surprise me.

Secondly, I do feel a little bad about how I've portrayed my friend in this thread here. Yes, she's been less than pleasant with some coworkers, but please understand that we work with a lot of big, crazy personalities, and it can be rather stressful. I would describe her as something akin to deep fried Ice Cream. Sure, she's got a layer that's rough and sarcastic, but just underneath that she's super sweet. Trust me, I'm not interested in dating some smoking hot asshat. XD